Love Is Not Blind

People are so intriguing to observe. They tend to switch up on you sporadically at any given moment. I have come to find that as a person, you choose what you wish to see or not see. We blind ourselves from noticing what we wish to not accept or understand. This is most evident when you are in love with another. This can be identified as a romantic relationship or merely friendship, but for the sake of argument I will exemplify the idea with a boyfriend or girlfriend. When in love with a significant other, you tend to stress the positive qualities they carry, overlooking the negative. You may acknowledge the not-so-great characteristics they possess; however, there always seems to be an excuse towards it or an act of ignorance. Who could blame you? This is your special someone. Not only that, but this person signifies you as well. You associate with them, not only as a friend that keeps good company, but a love interest. This holds importance in a deeper level. Therefore, the personality and overall being of this person reflects back on you. So, why wouldn't you want to emphasize their positive traits? After all, they are considered yours as well. The dramatic change in events begins when the relationship dissolves. Some turn of interest takes place to result in dissolution of engagement with each other. The road can take one of two paths. You either end in a horrible manner to where your name and a curse word appear in every sentence visible or to a point where forgiveness and plea is a common asked courtesy. What most people don't understand is there is a middle ground; one that is not often taken because it is quite the difficult route- Total seclusion. Usually after a break up, at least one partner of the couple takes an interest to being friends, regardless of how things ended up. That's where you stop and reverse. Although I'm sure there are exceptions to this idea, friendship between former lovers immediately following a break up is not healthy. Both need space, time to breathe, and most of all time to find themselves and who they are. A common saying "love is blind" begins to take some truth. Love can be blind. It can blind you from reality. You usually ratify a lover's questionable behavior in sake of saving what you feel is most valuable- the relationship. But as time goes on and you continue on your separate path, you begin to realize that love is not blind- you are. You saw the signs. You saw what was happening in front of your face but chose to not acknowledge it. So instead, we might be able to sympathize with Rabbi Julius Gordon when he states, "Love is not blind - it sees more, not less. But because it sees more, it is willing to see less." This "blurb", as I'll call it is nothing of great importance. Just some thoughts on paper while I'm in my lab class. I do wish to compose a book someday relating to similar issues. For now, these are my incomplete thoughts- snippets of my theology concerning the matter of love and insight, ignorance, and isolation.